Carter Heyward is Howard Chandler Robbins Professor of Theology at the Episcopal Divinity School, Cambridge, Massachusetts.

Presenting a provocative new attitude toward the role of intimacy in healing, the author of Touching Our Strength examines the traditional boundaries between therapist and patient and argues that such boundaries must be transcended to promote true healing.

"Traditional wisdom dictates that the values and codes governing psychotherapy are, if not self-evident, at least beyond question: therapy must be conducted in an atmosphere of detachment, objectivity, and strict separation of personal and professional agendas between patient and therapist. But what is the human cost of these values, and do they really contribute to healing?" "In When Boundaries Betray Us, feminist theologian and ethicist Carter Heyward delivers a lightning bolt reality check to this prevailing system of values. Drawing on her own traumatic experiences in therapy, Heyward exposes how the rigidly applied boundaries of the professional relationship can be fear-based, artificial constructs that stand in the way of true healing and our right-relation to one another as people. She shows how, in our hetero/sexist, patriarchal society, women especially must enter into healing on common ground, creating a mutually empowering experience for therapist and patient." "Recounting her eighteen months in therapy in an engaging and honest narrative, Heyward chronicles the life of a turbulent relationship - from moments of deep personal discovery to a shared experience of spiritual connection to a growing hostility and an abrupt severing of relations. She clearly illustrates how the intermingling of personal experience and emotion between therapist and patient is both inevitable and essential to the development of a truly trustworthy relationship. And, conversely, she shows how traditional boundaries are merely a pretense and can in and of themselves lead to emotional and spiritual wounding." "In a controversial break with many other feminists over boundaries in therapy, Heyward calls for a new form of healing in community - within the nurturing, mutually beneficial framework of fully developed relationships involving mutual risk. And she steps back from her own experience to pinpoint ongoing issues of power, community, and liberation that dramatically affect our ability to heal." "When Boundaries Betray Us is both a personal story and a challenging vision of what true therapy - and true healing - can be. It is must reading for all therapists and religious professionals, for those in therapy, and for anyone who wants to find the way to true well-being."--BOOK JACKET.Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Looks at the important issues that are often overlooked in the race to find the best, fastest, and most cutting-edge technological wonders.

Previous principles of hierarchy, inequality, and duty that defined the relationships between husband, wife, and children have been challenged and often replaced by more fluid bonds of equality, intimacy, emotional self-disclosure, communication, and mutual trust. The key question that has emerged for our times, then, is how exactly do families sustain genuine mutuality, democracy, and strong relationships? Figuring out good answers to this question is the major theme of this book and the origin of the title Mutuality Matters.

Praise for Ethics in Psychotherapy and Counseling, Fourth Edition "A stunningly good book. . . . If there is only one book you buy on ethics, this is the one." —David H. Barlow, PhD, ABPP, Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry, Boston University "The Fourth Edition continues to be the gold standard. . . . a must-read in every counseling/therapy training program. It is that good and valuable." —Derald Wing Sue, PhD, Professor of Psychology and Education, Teachers College, Columbia University "A must-have for therapists at every step of their career from student to wise elder." —Bonnie Strickland, PhD, former president, American Psychological Association "This Fourth Edition of the best book in its field has much timely new material. . . . A brilliant addition is an exploration of how reasonable people can conscientiously follow the same ethical principles yet reach different conclusions . . . an essential sourcebook." —Patrick O'Neill, PhD, former president, Canadian Psychological Association "Essential for all practicing mental health professionals and students." —Nadine Kaslow, PhD, ABPP, President, American Board of Professional Psychology "I particularly enjoyed the chapter on ethical practice in the electronic world, which was informative even to this highly tech-savvy psychologist. The chapter on responses to the interrogations issue is destined to be a classic. . . . Bravo! Mandatory reading." —Laura Brown, PhD, ABPP, 2010 President, APA Division of Trauma Psychology "There's no better resource to have at your fingertips." —Eric Drogin, JD, PhD, ABPP, former chair, APA Committee on Professional Practice and Standards and APA Committee on Legal Issues "Two of psychology's national treasures, Drs. Ken Pope and Melba Vasquez walk the walk of psychotherapy ethics. Simply the best book in its genre." —John Norcross, PhD, ABPP, Professor of Psychology and Distinguished University Fellow, University of Scranton

A go-to guide on how to confront, heal from, and ultimately thrive after the devastation of betrayal by a partner's compulsive sexual or other addictive behavior The first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will gain clarity; reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction; feel more empowered and in control of their lives; discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable. Vicki Tidwell Palmer is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) in private practice in Houston, Texas. She is the author of the blog for partners Survival Strategies for Partners of Sex Addicts.

What do you do when you run into a patient in a public place? How do you respond when a patient suddenly hugs you at the end of a session? Do you accept a gift that a patient brings to make up for causing you some inconvenience? Questions like these—which virtually all clinicians face at one time or another—have serious clinical, ethical, and legal implications. This authoritative, practical book uses compelling case vignettes to show how a wide range of boundary questions arise and can be responsibly resolved as part of the process of therapy. Coverage includes role reversal, gifts, self-disclosure, out-of-office encounters, physical contact, and sexual misconduct. Strategies for preventing boundary violations and managing associated legal risks are highlighted.

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.

A guide to restoring trust in broken relationships from a renowed couple’s therapist. Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged. In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.