IF YOU ARE A PARENT, SCHOOLTEACHER, LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICER, or mental healthcare provider, Toxic Families, Violent Lives lays out what you need to know about what is causing heightened levels of childhood/adolescent mental illness, behavioral disorders, juvenile alcohol and substance abuse, gang membership, school dropouts, teen pregnancies, and pervasive crime and violence. Toxic Families, Violent Lives gets at the root of the problem. It's all about the impediments to healthy childhood/adolescent physical, psychological, emotional, intellectual, and moral development. This book identifies a range of adverse childhood experiences that are the direct result of toxic family life rooted in poor parenting practices, and a range of dysfunctional and problematic parent behavior stemming from adult mental illness, alcohol and substance abuse, obsessions, insecurities, depression, anxiety, and maladaptive coping mechanisms. Parents need to understand the importance of developing a parent-child attachment, and a child’s self-control, empathy, and moral foundation. What can parents, schoolteachers, law enforcement, and mental health professionals do? Understand the pathways and pitfalls to healthy childhood / adolescent development and take an active role in that process. This book takes a read it, understand it, and apply it approach to the problem.

A warm, empathetic guide to understanding, coping with, and healing from the unique pain of sibling estrangement "Whenever I tell people that I am working on a book about sibling estrangement, they sit up a little straighter and lean in, as if I've tapped into a dark secret." Fern Schumer Chapman understands the pain of sibling estrangement firsthand. For the better part of forty years, she had nearly no relationship with her only brother, despite many attempts at reconnection. Her grief and shame were devastating and isolating. But when she tried to turn to others for help, she found that a profound stigma still surrounded estrangement, and that very little statistical and psychological research existed to help her better understand the rift that had broken up her family. So she decided to conduct her own research, interviewing psychologists and estranged siblings as well as recording the extraordinary story of her own rift with her brother--and subsequent reconciliation. Brothers, Sisters, Strangers is the result--a thoughtfully researched memoir that illuminates both the author's own story and the greater phenomenon of estrangement. Chapman helps readers work through the challenges of rebuilding a sibling relationship that seems damaged beyond repair, as well as understand when estrangement is the best option. It is at once a detailed framework for understanding sibling estrangement, a beacon of solidarity and comfort for the estranged, and a moving memoir about family trauma, addiction, grief, and recovery.

BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. When you were a child... Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? Were you frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you are an adult... Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen. It's the white space in their family picture, the background rather than the foreground. This will be the first self-help book to bring this invisible force to light, educate people about it, and teach them how to overcome it.

A psychologist offers a roadmap for those looking to break free of toxic family relationships and thrive in the aftermath. Toxic family abuse is always two-fold. The first layer of abuse is the original poor treatment by toxic family members, and the second is someone’s denial of the ways in which abusers treat and harm them. Loving someone doesn’t always mean having a relationship with them, just like forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. A significant part of healing comes with accepting that there are some relationships that are so poisonous that they destroy one’s ability to be healthy and function best. But It’s Your Family is a remarkable account of what it means to cut ties to toxic family abuse and thrive in the aftermath. Inside, Dr. Sherrie Campbell clarifies: · How parents, adult children, siblings, grandparents, and in-laws can be toxic · The difference between flawed and toxic family members · Explaining the cutting of ties to children and others who may not understand · Spiritual and religious views on forgiveness · The definition of cutting ties and what No Contact actually means When readers are able to bring closure to those toxic relationships, they give themselves the space to love those family members from a distance, as fellow human beings, with the knowledge that it is unwise to remain connected. Readers learn how to love themselves in the process and fundamentally change their lives for the better!

Have you been deeply hurt by a family member? Has your family, which should have loved, nourished, and protected you, inflicted traumas that still affect your life today? Are you struggling daily to repair the damage they caused? Some people are fortunate to be born into families with whom they love spending time. These members are compassionate towards each other, communicate their needs effortlessly, and staunchly support one another. Conversely, for others, a simple incoming call from a family member can be a source of dread. A 'toxic family' describes a family with dysfunctional relationships harmful to the emotional and psychological health of its members. These families are characterized by behaviors and dynamics such as emotional and psychological abuse, manipulation, denial, minimization of problems, distortion of reality, and unequal power and control. Such dynamics can lead to serious long-term psychological effects on family members, including anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and difficulty establishing healthy relationships. Toxic family dynamics can profoundly impact our lives as adults. Adult children of toxic family members often grapple with immense guilt, a sense of obligation, and shame, feeling compelled to keep family secrets, even at the cost of their own well-being. When others perceive your family as nice, yet behind closed doors, they reveal their true colors, the discrepancy can be jarring. This manual is recommended if your family: - Does not show concern for your feelings, needs, or rights. - Uses threats, harsh language, or violence. - Makes cruelly critical remarks. - Lies and/or uses guilt to manipulate. - Repeatedly violates your boundaries. - Insists on always being right. - Sows conflict among other family members. - Feels exempt from rules. - Has envious siblings in perpetual conflict. - Blames you for their flaws or mistakes. - Avoids responsibility for their actions. - Refuses to compromise. - Gives you the silent treatment. - Denies reality, emotionally manipulates, or gaslights, making you feel irrational. These are just a few common signs of a toxic family. Each family might display these traits differently or combine them in unique ways. The inner child within you may hope for change, but the reality is they may never do so. However, you might feel: - Guilty, as if you are to blame for your family's issues. - Confused by your family's fickle behavior and changing expectations. - Inadequate and powerless against your family members' cruel behaviors. - Alone, lacking a supportive network of loving family members. - Many people may not understand your experience, often remarking, “But they’re your family!” without grasping the full situation. Take action now, before it's too late. Breaking free from the toxic grip of family members is a winding path, but it is the best gift you can give to your life and your mental health.

"Surviving the Toxic Family" is a valuable book for anyone trying to recover from the devastating effects of growing up in a toxic or dysfunctional family. Drawing on engaging case studies, this book shows you how it is possible to recover from the trauma associated with a toxic family and leads you through the process to complete recovery. This book utilizes a three step process: Understanding why your family acts the way they do and why they treated you so poorly Changing the rules so that you do not have to continue being mistreated by them Taking your life back and living a life that's more authentic and genuine "Surviving The Toxic Family" promises to be a valuable tool for anyone who has a dysfunctional family, those with a loved one whom struggles with their family, and for therapists seeking to help clients from toxic families. This book provides practical hands-on strategies for surviving even the most toxic and dysfunctional families.

From the Publisher: Christina Crawford's devastating memoir Mommie Dearest (over 5,000,000 sold), first as book and later as Hollywood film, made the American public aware of violence in the family. In No Safe Place, drawing further on her personal story, but adding sociological research and case histories, the author shows how family violence is responsible for addictive behavior, depression, sleep disorders, chronic illness, suicide, delinquency, homelessness, and apparently "mindless" violent crime. A call to action, this impassioned book offers the hope that in facing the truth about our families we can save our society and ourselves.

The historical context of family violence is explored, as well as the various forms of violence, their prevalence in specific stages of life, and responses to it made by the criminal justice system and other agencies. The linkage among child abuse, partner violence and elder abuse is scrutinized, and the usefulness of the life-course approach is couched in terms of its potential effect on policy implications; research methods that recognize the importance of life stages, trajectories, and transitions; and crime causation theories that can be enhanced by it. Tables, figures, charts, discussion questions and helpful boxes with supplemental information titled "Tool Box," "From the Field," and "Research Shows" enhance the text.

Cutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and toward healing and happiness. This compassionate guide will help you embrace your decision with a sense of pride, validation, and faith in yourself; and provides powerful tools for creating boundaries, coping with judgment, and overcoming self-doubt. Do you have a toxic family member? Do you feel like cutting ties with this person—even as painful and scary as that may sound—would dramatically increase your well-being and improve your life? You’re not alone. Severing ties with a family member can be devastating; and cutting this toxic person out of your life may bring up feelings of guilt and uncertainty—especially if you feel judged by others regarding your decision. Fortunately, you can free yourself from this toxic family member in a healthy, responsible, and liberating way. In Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, psychologist and toxic-family survivor Sherrie Campbell offers effective strategies for setting strong boundaries after ending contact with a toxic family member, and provides powerful tools to help you heal from shame, self-doubt, and stigma. You’ll find the validation you need to embrace your decision with pride and acknowledgement of your self-worth. You’ll learn how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. And finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to rediscover self-care, self-love, self-reliance, and healthy loving relationships. Whether you’re ready to sever ties with a toxic family member, or already have, this book will help guide you, every step of the way.