We've all known someone who just can't seem to break free of a cycle of self-defeating and destructive behavior based on personal appetites that are out of control. Or perhaps we've suffered the consequences, big or small, of addictive behavior in our own lives. Stephen Arterburn offers insight and hope for anyone whose life has spun out of control due to addictions. His revolutionary and refreshing approach to recovery positively recognizes and affirms that our capacity to enjoy and savor life is a gift from God that must be fed for us to be healthy. From there, he helps readers identify and understand what personal needs they are really seeking to fulfill through their problematic behaviors, and lays out a proven step-by-step plan that enables them to reclaim control of their relationships, career, personal happiness-and life.

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP CARING OR CONTROLLING? Your partner: * Calls you all the time when you are not with them. * Wants you to spend all your time with them because they miss you too much when you are not with them. * Tells you what to wear because they want you to look your best. * Doesn't like your friends / family because they aren't good for you. * Asks you a million questions before you go out because they want to make sure you are safe. This book will help you gain clarity about your relationship and identify whether your relationship is caring or controlling? WHO IS THIS BOOK FOR?Anyone, who since being with their partner, is feeling lost; confused; questioning who they are; not able to recognise themselves anymore; feeling trapped within their relationship; AND feeling they aren't good enough.It will also be useful and helpful for anyone who has just walked out of a controlling or abusive relationship. WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT FROM THIS BOOK? You can expect to breathe a sigh of relief, feel reassured, and empowered with the insight, awareness and confidence required to take the necessary steps to ensure your relationships are happy, healthy and stress-free. Some readers may also feel self confident and self assured enough to bring up the subject issue with a family / friend that they suspect might be stuck in an unhealthy relationship. WHY YOU SHOULD BUY THIS BOOK? (1) Tried and tested advice: The book is a practical guide and framework, put together by a therapist through observations and experience of working with individuals facing unhealthy, controlling or abusive relationships. The advice is a tried and tested approach which has helped clients release themselves from the "hold" of a controlling / emotionally abusive relationship, enabling them to move forward in life with self belief, self acceptance and self love. (2) Important issue which requires ongoing awareness raising: Many individuals will struggle to or find it difficult to speak up about an unhealthy, toxic or abusive relationship due to reasons of fear, insecurity, confusion, uncertainty or doubt within themselves. Some of the tips in this article could empower individuals with the confidence, clarity and certainty required to acknowledge and accept that they are in an unhealthy situation that requires action.

In this no-nonsense, relevant book, Weiss helps readers identify and discern the sources of their worst behaviors. Using stories, case studies, personal experience, Scripture, and anecdotes, he makes strong points about emotional and psychological roots and the need for change.

In this timely book, readers will find practical help in cutting loose the emotional baggage that paralyzes. This easy-to-read hands-on guide will aid struggling believers as they: deal with depression, overcome anger, understand feelings, take responsibility, forgive others, slay the giant of fear, handle stress, and praise God in the midst of problems.

Learn how to “break the spell” of control with this bestseller hailed by Oprah Winfrey. Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a “spell-breaking” mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Does this sound like someone you know? *Always needs to be right *Tells you who you are and what you think *Implies that you’re wrong or inadequate when you don’t agree *Is threatened by people who are “different” *Feels attacked when questioned *Doesn’t seem to really hear or see you If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the “controlling personality,” and reveals how and why these people try to run other people’s lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur. Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.

Learn to manage your anxiety with this classic self-help book from a respected pioneer of psychotherapy. From social anxiety to phobias to post-traumatic stress disorder, sources of anxiety in daily life are numerous, and can have a powerful impact on your future. By following the rules of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, you can stop anxiety in its tracks if you will admit this important fact: Things and people do not make you anxious. You do. Your unrealistic expectations produce your needless anxiety. Yet not all anxiety is needless . . . Healthy anxiety can ward off dangers and make you aware of negative things that you can change. Unhealthy anxiety inhibits you from enjoying everyday activities and relationships, causes you to perform poorly, and blocks your creativity. Using the easy-to-master, proven precepts of REBT, this classic book not only helps you distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anxiety, but teaches you how to: • Understand and dispute the irrational beliefs that make you anxious • Use a variety of exercises, including rational coping self-statements, reframing, problem-solving methods, and Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA), to control your anxiety • Apply over two hundred maxims to control your anxious thinking as well as your bodily reactions to anxiety . . . and much more, including examples from dozens of cases Dr. Ellis treated successfully. Now you can overcome the crippling effects of anxiety—and increase your prospects for success, pleasure, and happiness at home and in the workplace. “No individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.” —Psychology Today

You don't control your mind. Most of the day, your mind is on autopilot, or worse yet, is being hijacked and controlled not by you, but by the many primitive "subminds" someplace inside your skull, lurking in your brain's subconsciousness. These subminds include your insecurity submind, your envy submind, your worry submind, your machismo submind, your frustration submind, your anxiety submind, and your hedonism submind. These subminds, not you, send you into episodes of frustration, sadness, worry, anxiety, and anger. They lead you to crave things you do not need. They cause you to think thoughts you would not want to think, to replay over and over again in your mind past unpleasant memories you would not consciously choose to rehash, and to worry about things that may not even happen in the future, and over which you have no control anyhow. They lead to you fixate only on "me, me, me", never considering the desires, preferences, and happiness of your family and loved ones. They delude you into believing that you need certain things and conditions in some ill-defined future to be happy, rather than to appreciate and be happy with what you have right now. But the good news is that we can learn to understand how our minds work, and how to recognize, tame, and control these subminds that perturb and subvert our happiness and inner peace. In Take Back Control of Your Mind, you will learn how to use mindfulness, meditation, and other techniques, approaches, and strategies to better control your thoughts, emotions, reactions, actions, and your mind itself, in order to have a happier life and a greater sense of inner peace, and to be a at least a little better person.

The average person has 70,000 thoughts every day, and many of those thoughts trigger a corresponding emotion. No wonder so many of us often feel like we're controlled by our emotions. Our lives would be much improved if we controlled them. In LIVING BEYOND YOUR FEELINGS, Joyce Meyer examines the gamut of feelings that human beings experience. She discusses the way that the brain processes and stores memories and thoughts, and then - emotion by emotion - she explains how we can manage our reactions to those emotions. By doing that, she gives the reader a toolbox for managing the way we react to the onslaught of feelings that can wreak havoc on our lives. In this book, Meyer blends the wisdom of the Bible with the latest psychological research and discusses: the 4 personality types and their influence on one's outlook, the impact of stress on physical and emotional health, the power of memories, the influence of words on emotions, anger & resentment, sadness, loss & grief, fear, guilt & regret, the power of replacing reactions with pro-actions, and the benefits of happiness.

In a crisis, it's easy to revert to old patterns. Caring for your well-being during the coronavirus pandemic includes maintaining healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart.

Help for anger management — from NYT bestselling author Gary Chapman Anger is a cruel master. If you struggle even a little with anger, you know how it feels to get mad too easily. To lash out at someone you love. To hold onto frustration. You might even notice others seem uneasy around you. You know anger is hurting your life, but you don’t know how to fix it. There is hope. When you understand why you get angry and what to do about it, you can change the course of your life for the better. In Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion, counselor Gary Chapman shares surprising insights about anger, its effect on relationships, and how to overcome it. His advice and real-life examples will help you: Understand yourself better Overcome shame, denial, and bitterness Discern good anger from bad anger Manage anger and conflict constructively Make positive life changes Let go of your grudges and resentment Help others (like your children) deal with anger and more Whether your anger is quiet or explosive, if it’s clouding your judgment and hurting your relationships, it needs to go. Learn to handle anger in healthy ways, starting today. Gary Chapman is wise and empathetic, and he'll help you turn over a new leaf.