A veteran teacher of anger management classes, John Vredevelt has answered that question countless times. Now he teams up with his wife, Pam, a Licensed Professional Counselor, to offer practical tools to readers who want to understand and constructively process feelings of frustration and anger. With compelling stories to reinforce their insights, the Vredevelts share the top twelve strategies they use in counseling to help people replace frustration and anger with peace and contentment. Discussion questions accompany each chapter, making it ideal for use in a twelve-week small group format.

This is THE book on anger, the first book to explain exactly why we get mad, what anger really is - and how to cope with and use it. Often confused with hostility and violence, anger is fundamentally different from these aggressive behaviours and in fact can be a healthy and powerful force in our lives. What is anger? Who is allowed to be angry? How can we manage our anger? How can we use it? It might seem like a day doesn't go by without some troubling explosion of anger, whether we're shouting at the kids, or the TV, or the driver ahead who's slowing us down. In this book, the first of its kind, Dr. Ryan Martin draws on 20 years plus of research, as well as his own childhood experience of an angry parent, to take an all-round view on this often-challenging emotion. It explains exactly what anger is, why we get angry, how our anger hurts us as well as those around us, and how we can manage our anger and even channel it into positive change. It also explores how race and gender shape society's perceptions of who is allowed to get angry. Dr. Martin offers questionnaires, emotion logs, control techniques and many other tools to help readers understand better what pushes their buttons and what to do with angry feelings when they arise. It shows how to differentiate good anger from bad anger, and reframe anger from being a necessarily problematic experience in our lives to being a fuel that energizes us to solve problems, release our creativity and confront injustice.

A Guide to Healthy Anger Expression How do you express your anger? Do you blow up? Quietly seethe? Or do you try to pretend that you're really not angry at all and just hope the feelings will go away? Most of us express anger in more than one way, but we also tend to be creatures of habit, falling back on a few predictable styles when we feel angry. Unfortunately, while some styles are appropriate in some situations, others are not—and consistently using an inappropriate style is a sure way to find yourself saddled with a huge anger problem. This book examines the eleven most common styles of anger expression and helps you learn how to communicate your anger in healthy ways. Learn which anger styles work for different situations—and which ones lead to certain disaster. Find out how to become more flexible and creative at expressing your anger. Once you understand the whole range of anger styles, you'll be able to better manage angry feelings and use your anger as a positive force for building a better life.

In recent years, neuroscientists have discovered that the heart has its own intelligence, a complex independent nervous system that is referred to as 'the brain in the heart.' Getting the heart into a positive rhythm can directly send a signal to the brain, allowing the two to synchronize and literally transform anger, frustration, and irritation into compassion, empathy, and calm. From Transforming Anger, learn how thoughts and feelings get stored in the nervous system and create cellular triggers of irritation, frustration, and anger. Then find out how to get beyond the mechanical negative pull of these triggers. Discover how to control your heart rhythms using a 60-second 'freeze-frame' technique: an exercise that calms the mind, synchronizes the nervous system, and increases the level of internal coherence, so that you can clearly and quickly see the options for dealing with anger. This technique can be used anytime and anywhere, and puts you in a zone in which you are able to feel calm, compassionate feelings for yourself and for others. For lasting change, learn to build emotional assets, depersonalize the actions of others, identify resistance to change, and keep the practice going. HeartMath is a registered trademark of the Institute of HeartMath.

From the leaders of the renowned HeartMath Institute comes the first anger book to use scientifically proven techniques to transform the body's physical response to anger and show readers how to release and resist angry feelings.

Uses simple Buddhist principles an easily understandable way, this book may help readers replace the anger in their lives with a newfound contentment.

Mad at Everything Your Guide to Anger Management, Controlling Your Frustration, and Living a Happier Life!! *** 7 FREE Bonus Books included Inside!*** While anger is a normal emotion, when it goes unmanaged it can wreck havoc on everyone else's life including your own. Whenever you are unable to control the fits of anger, the end results are often destructive leading to problems in personal relationships, at work and overall affecting your entire existence. Anger can damage your relationships and health when you don't express it at all, if you express it unsafe ways or if you express it at the wrong time. Overall, it remains imperative to learn how to control your anger such that you don't go causing harm to others when you express it wrongly or cause harm to yourself when you bottle it up. It's easy to see that you need to control anger before it controls you. But, how? This book will teach you how. Here are a Few Things You Will Learn From This Book: Thinking before you speak Identifying other possible solutions other than anger Using humor to release tension Relaxation Skills How not to hold a grudge How to express your anger calmly And much, much more! Take action now! Continue reading for even deeper information on anger management and my greatest hope is that you are able to find your calm amidst the realms of anger. Scroll to the top and press the Buy Now with 1-Click button

What if someone told you that you could discover the source of all your problems and address them head-on? How about if they told you that reconstructing your attitude would actually change your life? Author Jude Bijou combines contemporary psychology and ancient spiritual wisdom to provide a revolutionary theory of human behavior that will help you do just that. Her comprehensive blueprint will teach you to .identify and navigate the six primary emotions; .replace destructive thoughts with reliable truths; .access your deepest intuition; .communicate lovingly and effectively; .overcome harmful habits through step-by-step action. These concepts can be easily understood and integrated into your daily routine, regardless of your spiritual path, cultural background, age, or education. With practical tools, real-life examples, and everyday solutions for thirty-three destructive attitudes, Attitude Reconstruction can help you stop settling for sadness, anger, and fear, and infuse your life with love, peace, and joy.

Most of us have plenty of experience with self-blame and guilt - but we are often at a loss when it comes to forgiving ourselves. According to Colin Tipping, this is because our idea of forgiveness usually requires a victim and a perpetrator - which is impossible when we play both roles at the same time. Tipping's Radical Forgiveness process all...

Learn to stop letting people and situations upset you and start enjoying life in this classic self-help book by a respected pioneer of psychotherapy. Life can get tough. From unemployment—or overwork—to divorce or remarriage, the challenges of newly blended families, not to mention everyday hassles, stress can feel non-stop. To top it off, technology confronts us with a barrage of seemingly urgent tasks 24/7. It’s no wonder things and people can make you lose your cool. In this landmark book you’ll find a very specific, powerful skill set designed to help you keep any scenario from pushing your buttons—and it works. Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world-renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, provides you with realistic, simple, proven techniques that will significantly reduce your stress levels and help you react effectively, whether the circumstances are professional or personal. Discover: • Ten beliefs we use to let people and situations needlessly push our buttons • A powerful alternative to the kind of thinking that upsets us • The Fatal Foursome—feelings that sabotage you • How to change your irrational thinking using four key steps Whether you’re dealing with colleagues, parents, kids, friends, or lovers, How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons will show you how to enjoy an active, vibrant, successful life. “No individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.” —Psychology Today Praise for How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons “Don’t get mad or get even—get placid using these techniques for defusing difficult situations.” —Booklist