Victim To Survivor and Thriver: Carole's StoryHope for survivors of childhood trauma, abuse or neglect.By Barbara Harris WhitfieldCarole was a victim of repeated child abuse. Her story demonstrates the deep healing that is possible with knowledge, the courage to face buried pain, and the love of safe others.Her riveting true story is intertwined with my life and that of my husband Charles Whitfield, MD (author of the bestselling Healing the Child Within). This is our story, too, of walking together with Carole along her path of recovery. As you read, you will learn how Carole transformed her suffering and loss, a "less-than" life-- into joy for living and even serenity.This is not a fictional account, nor has it been scrubbed clean of the horrors of living with childhood abuse and neglect. In fact, Carole's story contains a depth of sadness that only the adults that were repeatedly abused as children may understand. Carole broke through --awoke-- to find joy and laughter mixed with the tears of her realizations and she turned them into strength, hope, confidence and finally peace. This story of triumph over abuse is for all victims and those who care for them; clinicians as well as loved ones.This story demonstrates that: 1) When we think of ourselves as "victims" we believe we are "depressed."2) When we enter into our own healing process, we become "survivors" and experience the bittersweet movement of our emotional pain.3) Finally, with the support of safe others --we become "Thrivers" and live without fear. We become fully awake and alive. We discover who we really are and we find serenity. In this story I share my experiences and research into Near-Death Experiences. Charles Whitfield brings to bear his knowledge and experience with healing childhood trauma. And then the reader can witness Carole sopping up our knowledge and love like a sponge. So may you. Quotes from Carole's Story: "The thunderstorms are just as beautiful as a sunny day. And so is life!""Carole's story is beautiful and contains thunderstorms and sunny days --and they are all framed with the courage and love we shared!" This book includes the latest research from the Centers for Disease Control on the Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Study.It was reviewed by former victims who have experienced the movement of survivorship and then the transcendence to Thrivership.If you or someone you know has gone through repeated abuse or trauma of any kind, then this powerful story may bring what you have longed for -- a way to heal, a way out of suffering, and the knowledge that you are not alone.www.barbarawhitfield.com

One of the church's most shameful secrets is pastors who sexually abuse their congregants. In Victim to Survivor, Nancy Werking Poling offers the harrowing and poignant stories of six women who were sexually abused by their pastors and tell in their own voices what they did about it. In their pain, these victims, survivors, and thrivers dare to call upon the church to be a safe refuge for all people, women and men alike. And in their personal journeys of healing, they demonstrate a tenacious faith, grounded in gospel truth--compelling church leaders to acknowledge this hurtful hypocracy, advocate for healthy pastoral relationships, and finally call pastors to accountability.

A top-selling, best-reviewed book about women's recovery from rape trauma, "Resurrection After Rape" is an ideal resource for counselors, treatment centers, college course texts, and survivors of rape.

First published in 1998. A research-based resource for helping professionals dealing with women who were sexually abused by female perpetrators, mainly mothers and grandmothers, this text focuses on the female perpetrator, defining what treatments have been found workable and providing an overview of the available literature. Secondly, the authors share the results from interviews with 85 women adult women survivors. Their journals, poems and artwork have been collated with what the women themselves have found to be both helpful and counterproductive methods of healing. The authors outline intentions and procedures for nonverbal methods of treatment that have proved effective in practice.

If you, or someone you know, has been subjected to sexual abuse in childhood then this book is for you. It has an easy to read format and is presented in a simple way, cutting through jargon to offer down to earth help and support. From Victim to Survivor has been born out of the author's personal experiences. It offers positive help and practical ideas for dealing with the trauma brought about by an abusive childhood. The text is purposely short with chapters which can, if desired, be dipped into rather than read from cover to cover. It is a guide to the journey of regaining your self-respect and love of life, in order to live your life as a whole person and finally shake off the shadows of the past.

McKnight identifies three workplace personalities and provides detailed guidance for getting out of Victim- or Survivor-mode and moving into Navigator mode. The final chapter contains checklists, worksheets, and exercises helpful to the reader.

In Neither Victim nor Survivor: Thinking toward a New Humanity, Marilyn Nissim-Sabat offers a comprehensive critique of the interrelated concepts of 'victim' and 'survivor' as they have been ideologically distorted in Western thought. Framed by the phenomenological perspective of Edmund Husserl, Nissim-Sabat carries out her argument through an intense engagement with current scholarly work on Toni Morrison's Beloved, Sophocles' Antigone, akrasia, psychoanalysis, critical race theory, feminist philosophy of science, and Marxism. Nissim-Sabat ultimately proposes that a new consciousness, enabled by the phenomenological attitude, of the way in which ideological distortion of the concepts of 'victim' and 'survivor' helps to perpetuate victimization will empower us to find ways to end victimization and its anti-human consequences. The book's interdisciplinary approach will make it appealing to a broad range of students and scholars alike.

There are many emotions that need to be expressed for true healing to begin. Starting is the hard part. Inside this journal, I began the sentences for you. Completing them is your first step to healing. These particular sentences were created to help you to tap into those emotions you are afraid to share with others for fear of rejection. The pain of guilt, shame, fear, anger, anxiety, and other emotions you've been afraid to confront, are not yours to hold onto. We are a visual people. You have to see your pain to heal from it. As the former wife of John Allen Muhammad, the convicted and now executed, DC Sniper, I've felt no one could handle my emotions. I knew I had to get them outside of myself to heal. I began journaling and found more emotions I didn't realize existed. I couldn't tell anyone because I felt ashamed, guilty, and thought no one would believe me anyway. Writing them down gave me the opportunity to truly focus on my pain and how these emotions were affecting my everyday living. As I continued to write, without worrying about punctuation or how I would be accepted for what I was saying, my heart was no longer heavy. The more sentences I completed, the better I felt on a daily basis. Peace of mind is a wonderful thing! I'm so thankful to God for giving me the inspiration and guidance to share this journaling process with you. I hope and pray you will use it as a tool to help in your healing process. We all need to confront our emotional injuries we suffer on a daily basis. It is a long journey, however, it is worth the trip. A comprehensive safety plan, to escape your abusive relationship along with resources for victims/survivors are included.

Can you imagine experiencing the part of you that has been untouched by violence, abuse, trauma, hurt and pain? There is a journey beyond merely surviving abuse. It is the "Journey to the Real You" - the amazing place where positive energy flows and you are a THRIVER! "The Thriver Workbook: Journey from Victim to Survivor to Thriver!" is an invaluable book to help you take the critical next-step from survivor to thriver! It contains the motivational guidance Susan Omilian has successfully used in her "My Avenging Angel Workshops " since 2001. With easy-to-use worksheets, interactive writing exercises and inspirational success stories from those who have survived abuse, "The Thriver Workbook" takes the reader step-by-step, chapter-by-chapter, through the exercises, writing prompts and interactive activities that women enjoy in Susan's two-day workshop. Also shared in the book are Thriver Success Stories, by women who have survived domestic violence and are now thriving. Visit Susan's website at www.thriverzone.com for more information about Susan, her workshops and her workbook.

When hopelessness seems to be the only option, how do you find the strength to persevere through unimaginable circumstances? When the possibility of death looms in every corner of your mind, how can you emerge more resilient than before? What if you are mercilessly abused nearly to death by the very individual who has sworn to love you until "death do us part?" What do you do when you feel the darkness around you as if it is consuming you and inescapable?Unintentional Hero answers these questions in an extraordinary story of strength, faith, and resilience. After years of surviving in the shadows, bound by the chains of physical, mental, and emotional abuse, an oppressed woman found the courage not only to escape her oppressor, but also the courage to build a life focused on helping those like her. While this book explores one particular woman's harrowing journey, its message runs through the veins of every person who has been, or continues to be, a survivor of domestic violence. From the foreword notes, Rania explains "You are about to read about a time of my life, the circumstances of which are exceedingly difficult for most people to comprehend. At times, they're difficult for me to understand, and I lived through them. If you are, or have been, a victim of domestic violence, you already understand all too well. I offer you my unending support and hope for the life you deserve. If you are not (or have never been) a victim, as you read my story, you may wonder why I didn't "just" leave. People ask this question of victims all the time. And the answer is complex and dark, just as the abuse itself. The reason is it is based on a victim's state of mind -- a state of mind that is as bloody and bruised as any visible injuries. There is no simple comparison to a healthy, clear mindset with the capacity to make rational decisions.Abuse, in any form, is anything but rational. Victims are often brainwashed to believe that there are no options or ways out. And, even if we allowed ourselves the freedom of thought to realize there may be, we live in constant fear and under constant threats of what will happen if we try to leave. We know, better than anyone, what our abusers are capable of. Unintentional Hero is about finding light after years of being shrouded in darkness. Yet, as with all journeys, a survivor's path is not easy. A survivor of domestic violence must emerge from a seemingly bottomless abyss and search the very depths of their soul to begin the healing process and regain a sense of self. But like all survivor stories, there are heroes along the way who help navigate bumpy roads fraught with obstacles. Unintentional Hero explores the obstacles survivors face. Visible obstacles can heal quickly and easily with time, but it is the invisible roadblocks that stubbornly bury themselves in a survivor's mind that can wreak havoc for years. But sometimes, a person will cross our path in our darkest hour and chip away at the roadblock, eroding it until we can once again walk our path. That person is one of the remarkable people who doesn't necessarily intend to make an impact, yet often makes the biggest one. Unintentional Hero helps survivors of domestic violence understand that even when all feels lost, a hero may be just around the corner, if only they have the courage to look. Above all, this book offers love and support.Unintentional Hero embodies what the human spirit is capable of when we possess the will not only to change our circumstances, but to acknowledge the efforts of the unintentional heroes who may have helped save our lives."This book is dedicated to victims of domestic abuse. May your bruises heal, your scars fade, and your minds clear. May the darkness fade into shadows and the shadows disappear into light. May you find the life that you deserve."