This is two books put together as one. The first part deals with the problem of domestic violence. Domestic violence is wide spread, wreaks havoc on families and sometimes leads to the death of a loved one. And, it goes both ways! Both men and women can be abusers or victims. Often family friends feel helpless. Questions arise. How can we help the victim when she/he does not seem to want to leave the relationship? Is there hope for the perpetrators? Can they change? We explain what domestic violence is, the causes, the consequences, suggested treatment and help for both perpetrators and victims, and a biblical view of marriage. In part two, we tackle the subject of anger management. We will define anger and its core dynamics, determine how to recognize it, see that anger is a choice we can manage, and identify the cycle of anger. We will identify the major mental distortions that fuel anger, and expand on practical strategies to manage anger.This book is born out of lessons learned from personal experiences, and Willis' extensive research, years of experience in counseling people involved in domestic violence situations and teaching anger management. If you are involved in an abusive relationship, and/or have anger issues, DON'T SET THIS BOOK ASIDE! You can find hope and help here. This book will change your life!

Ronald T. Potter-Efron consciously connects anger management and domestic violence, two long separated fields, and addresses treatment options and intervention methods that meet the needs of individual clients, couples, families, and groups. Therapists, counselors, social workers, and other treatment specialists will find this book a useful overview and reference for anger and anger management techniques as well as domestic violence approaches. This new edition is split into four distinct sections: • A description of anger and domestic violence focused upon helping clients use the principles of neuroplasticity to dramatically alter their behavior • Assessment for anger problems and/or domestic violence • Group treatment for individuals with anger problems and/or domestic violence • Individual, couples, and family treatment of these concerns. Woven through this book is a fair and balanced treatment of gender issues, reflected in the diversity of case examples that address jealousy, chronic anger, behavioral problems, group and individual counseling, and more. Readers are also shown how anger develops and can lead to verbal and physical outbursts, the five types of rage reactions, and how to treat anger turned inward. Potter-Efron also details four different approaches to treating anger: behavioral, cognitive, affective, and existential/spiritual. Mental health professionals are provided numerous questionnaires and worksheets to utilize with their clients. Handbook of Anger Management and Domestic Violence Offender Treatment is an essential guidebook that illustrates effective theory and practice.

"Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out." -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for theemotionally abusive relationship "In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offersstep-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping bothvictims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful andtraumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individualsand for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotionalabuse." -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse "This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotionalabuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showingeach party what emotional abuse is, how it affects therelationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamicrelationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp thetools for change and really use them." -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abusethem emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves isphenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form ofabuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world'sleading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to doabout it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that youmight be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both youand your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book isfor you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how toidentify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of yourbehavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps toheal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow youand your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst ineach other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to helpthemselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stopabusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expertguidance and support you need.

Help for anger management — from NYT bestselling author Gary Chapman Anger is a cruel master. If you struggle even a little with anger, you know how it feels to get mad too easily. To lash out at someone you love. To hold onto frustration. You might even notice others seem uneasy around you. You know anger is hurting your life, but you don’t know how to fix it. There is hope. When you understand why you get angry and what to do about it, you can change the course of your life for the better. In Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion, counselor Gary Chapman shares surprising insights about anger, its effect on relationships, and how to overcome it. His advice and real-life examples will help you: Understand yourself better Overcome shame, denial, and bitterness Discern good anger from bad anger Manage anger and conflict constructively Make positive life changes Let go of your grudges and resentment Help others (like your children) deal with anger and more Whether your anger is quiet or explosive, if it’s clouding your judgment and hurting your relationships, it needs to go. Learn to handle anger in healthy ways, starting today. Gary Chapman is wise and empathetic, and he'll help you turn over a new leaf.

Ronald T. Potter-Efron consciously connects anger management and domestic violence, two long separated fields, and addresses treatment options and intervention methods that meet the needs of individual clients, couples, families, and groups. Therapists, counselors, social workers, and other treatment specialists will find this book a useful overview and reference for anger and anger management techniques as well as domestic violence approaches. This new edition is split into four distinct sections: A description of anger and domestic violence focused upon helping clients use the principles of n.

Don't let anger harm your health, career, and relationships: “No individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.” —Psychology Today Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. Yet in these increasingly stressful times, all of us have acted in anger—and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world-renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover: The rational and irrational aspects of anger Special insights into your self-angering beliefs How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger How to relax How to accept yourself with your anger . . and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.

The startling new science behind sudden acts of violence and the nine triggers this groundbreaking researcher has uncovered We all have a rage circuit we can’t fully control once it is engaged as R. Douglas Fields, PhD, reveals in this essential book for our time. The daily headlines are filled with examples of otherwise rational people with no history of violence or mental illness suddenly snapping in a domestic dispute, an altercation with police, or road rage attack. We all wish to believe that we are in control of our actions, but the fact is, in certain circumstances we are not. The sad truth is that the right trigger in the right circumstance can unleash a fit of rage in almost anyone. But there is a twist: Essentially the same pathway in the brain that can result in a violent outburst can also enable us to act heroically and altruistically before our conscious brain knows what we are doing. Think of the stranger who dives into a frigid winter lake to save a drowning child. Dr. Fields is an internationally recognized neurobiologist and authority on the brain and the cellular mechanisms of memory. He has spent years trying to understand the biological basis of rage and anomalous violence, and he has concluded that our culture’s understanding of the problem is based on an erroneous assumption: that rage attacks are the product of morally or mentally defective individuals, rather than a capacity that we all possess. Fields shows that violent behavior is the result of the clash between our evolutionary hardwiring and triggers in our contemporary world. Our personal space is more crowded than ever, we get less sleep, and we just aren't as fit as our ancestors. We need to understand how the hardwiring works and how to recognize the nine triggers. With a totally new perspective, engaging narrative, and practical advice, Why We Snap uncovers the biological roots of the rage response and how we can protect ourselves—and others.

Domestic Violence and Control provides important longitudinal data on violent relationships and addresses the problem of violence from the perspective of both the perpetrator and the victim. The issue of control emerges as a central theme. Control plays a keyrole, firstly, in organizing the victim's thoughts with regard to the batterer, and, secondly, in cases of repeated acts of violence over a length of time. The study shows acts of violence to be both "impulsive" and "instrumental" and thereby refutes competing explanations in the literature that violence is either "impulsive" or "instrumental."

In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

I have decided to put a closure to something that haunted me for a long time by writing this book. I grew up in a domestically violent home, and I got married into another domestically violent home. This has affected me and my children, and I have decided to break the chains of abuse forever. The damage caused by domestic violence cannot be repaired, but I do have control over what is going to come into my life in the future. This book talks about my childhood and domestic violence and my marriage and abuse that caused me to have low self-esteem. In this book, I also talk about how I found myself going through depression because of bottling things up and how I managed to overcome that depression. It takes you to set yourself free from abuse.