Where there are people, there are disagreements and misunderstandings. The author of 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue (more than 500,000 copies sold), a popular speaker, and a relationship strategist, Deborah Smith Pegues draws on biblical principles, personal experience, and research to show how to approach difficult situations so relationships are strengthened rather than broken. Meeting face-to-face to resolve an issue is difficult, but Pegues makes it easier by revealing how to avoid complications, sharing examples of good communication, and offering specific steps for dealing with conflicts. Readers will discover: effective and compassionate techniques for handling conflict practical strategies for resolving conflict how personality types influence discussions suggestions for minimizing defensiveness ideas for developing and promoting cooperation Confronting Without Offending gives readers the tools to successfully talk over and resolve issues and misunderstandings at home, at work, and in social situations.

Control Your Tongue, Transform Your Relationships Certified behavioral consultant Deborah Smith Pegues knows how easily a slip of the tongue can cause problems in personal and business relationships. In 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue, you will learn how to transform those destructive slips into intentional, constructive, and uplifting speech that is honoring to God and others. With humor and a bit of refreshing sass, Deborah devotes chapters to learning how to overcome the Retaliating Tongue Complaining Tongue Belittling Tongue Hasty Tongue Gossiping Tongue and 25 More! Short stories, soul-searching questions, and scripturally-based affirmations combine to make each chapter engaging to read and easy to apply at work, at home, and beyond. With professional insights and biblical wisdom, Deborah helps you take control of the power of your tongue—and transform your life and relationships!

It's a mad, mad world and rare is the person who gets through a single day without encountering an irritating, frustrating, or anger-producing situation. Deborah Pegues, author of the award-winning and bestselling 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue (more than 650,000 sold), is once again a voice of hope in this indispensable guide for dealing with short-term and long-term feelings of displeasure. Pegues reveals that anger is a secondary emotion. She uses biblical and modern-day stories to help you identify 18 primary emotions that may be at the root of your anger—and to choose Scripture-based responses for effectively dealing with them. You will discover anger-taming strategies such as predetermining how to respond to certain triggers deactivating your "anger buttons" developing a divine perspective toward frustrating people or circumstances exercising the fruit of the Spirit to thwart impatience and irritability understanding how food and other factors affect mood 30 Days to Taming Your Anger provides Scripture-based principles, heart-searching personal challenges, and powerful affirmations that point you to a new sense of freedom and improved relationships. Perfect for individual devotions, small groups, and biblical counseling.

Why is forgiveness so hard? People who refuse to forgive often sabotage their future and create an emotional cancer that spreads into every other aspect of their lives. Even those who genuinely desire to forgive often struggle to get beyond their wounded emotions. In Forgive, Let Go, and Live, Deborah Pegues provides specific guidelines to help us better understand what forgiveness is and what it's not how to overcome seemingly unforgivable hurts when to restore, redefine, or release a hurtful relationship how it's possible to forgive without forgetting why learning how to forgive is a process Pegues showcases the triumphs of famous and everyday people as well as biblical characters who decided to pursue forgiveness and also the tragedies of those who chose to wallow in anger and revenge. If you've been wounded by another, this book will empower you to find joy, freedom, and peace as you let go of your desire to avenge the wrong and make a commitment to release the offender from his debt.

We need God’s help...and fast! Deborah Smith Pegues, a behavioral consultant and the author of 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue (more than 500,000 copies sold), offers readers a 9–1–1 prayerbook for life’s many circumstances and needs. Brief, immediate, and heartfelt, these prayers bring God’s Word to the forefront of a reader’s mind as they lift up cries for: help on the homefront financial discipline and direction resistance of temptations guidance in important decisions comfort in the midst of pain This conveniently sized emergency guide can remain close at hand and heart as it leads readers to God’s presence for every need.

Almost everyone has found themselves in a situation where they don't know if they should bite their tongue or speak their mind. When is silence golden and when is it better to speak up? When to Speak Up and When to Shut Up offers practical guidelines for people who want to improve their communication skills. It will help readers explore the cost and purpose of silence, how to ask good questions, how to overcome pressure to remain silent, and more. Using biblical and contemporary examples, this book shares important strategies for discerning God's direction, acting on his word, and building better communication within your workplace, church, and home.

Deborah Smith Pegues, behavioral specialist and bestselling author of 30 days to Taming Your Tongue (more than 500,000 copies sold), sheds light on rational and irrational fears and offers readers a path of hope and assurance. With her trademark clarity and practical wisdom, Deborah addresses spiritual, relational, physical safety, financial, and emotional fears with godly principles and straightforward helps. Each step of the way, she gives readers power over fear by helping them understand: the foundation of their fears God’s perspective on their specific anxiety, fear, or phobia how to respond to fear triggers with information, awareness, and confidence ways to embrace healthy fears and to resist unhealthy ones how neutralizing their fears maximizes their life This will be an invaluable resource for anyone walking the minefield of constant apprehensions who is ready to exchange fear for the peace which passes all understanding.

Sexual misconduct by clergy is a devastating issue that reaches across all denominations, damaging the credibility of the church in its wake. The media regularly reports on the moral failure of leaders and abuse at the hands of those who are supposed to be trustworthy. Betrayal of Trust focuses on a common scenario of abuse--sexual involvement between a male pastor and a female congregant--and offers practical solutions on how to respond to and prevent this betrayal of trust. This book presents methods that will help churches respond sensitively to victims and implement policies and procedures to prevent abuse from taking place. For clergy who may be at risk for this behavior, it offers help in establishing appropriate boundaries. This second edition includes a new chapter that offers help for the wandering pastor and a risk-determination questionnaire for pastors who may become abusers.

You’ve heard the expression, “Attitude is everything.” But can a positive mental attitude make all that much difference in your personal and professional life? Deborah Smith Pegues, author of the bestselling 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue, believes strongly that it can. In Choose Your Attitude, Change Your Life, Deborah explores the root causes of 30 negative attitudes, their impact on your life and relationships, and how you can learn to think positively instead. As a result, she helps you recognize and conquer counterproductive behaviors, such as criticizing the choices others make, being inflexible, and being indifferent to the needs of others. Deborah’s handy guide uses Bible-based principles and practical strategies to point you toward the path to a better outlook on life, empowering you to display a positive mental attitude in every situation and leading to healthier relationships, personal growth, and the ability to handle life’s challenges as never before. Previously titled 30 Days to a Great Attitude.

In Our Children, Their Children, a prominent team of researchers argues that a second-rate and increasingly punitive juvenile justice system is allowed to persist because most people believe it is designed for children in other ethnic and socioeconomic groups. While public opinion, laws, and social policies that convey distinctions between "our children" and "their children" may seem to conflict with the American ideal of blind justice, they are hardly at odds with patterns of group differentiation and inequality that have characterized much of American history. Our Children, Their Children provides a state-of-the-science examination of racial and ethnic disparities in the American juvenile justice system. Here, contributors document the precise magnitude of these disparities, seek to determine their causes, and propose potential solutions. In addition to race and ethnicity, contributors also look at the effects on juvenile justice of suburban sprawl, the impact of family and neighborhood, bias in postarrest decisions, and mental health issues. Assessing the implications of these differences for public policy initiatives and legal reforms, this volume is the first critical summary of what is known and unknown in this important area of social research.