Our greatest suffering is that we do not feel complete as we are. Right here, right now! We have been trained to reject our uniqueness and our value. We live in a prison; a cage of guilt, anxiety and worthlessness, believing that we are never 'good enough' just as we are. Mark Kahn, a practicing clinical psychologist of 35 years, and management consultant with 17 years' worth of experience, has devoted his life to helping people to realise self-love, without arrogance. In this unique Self-Esteem work, penned straight from the heart and shooting straight from the hip; readers will be taken through the theory, as well as a range of simple, yet powerful techniques enabling individuals: -Dissolve your feelings of victimhood in the face of conflict and threat.-To no longer be a slave to the conditioned rules of society.-To reclaim the power and confidence you have given away to others.-To choose to risk yourself more than you avoid.-To let go of the noose of guilt and performance anxiety, which society has placed around your neck.-To move from the hell of wanting to be loved, to the heaven of loving yourself for no reason!"This insightful book is both a direct and powerful response to the prison walls created by our conditioning. To dismantle these walls enables a freedom of spirit and psyche to emerge, that honours the individuality, the uniqueness and the genius of every one of us."Dr. John F. Demartini

Tackling relationships, career, and family issues, John Kim, LMFT, thinks of himself as a life-styledesigner, not a therapist. His radical new approach, that he sometimes calls “self-help in a shot glass” is easy, real, and to the point. He helps people make changes to their lives so that personal growth happens organically, just by living. Let’s face it, therapy is a luxury. Few of us have the time or money to devote to going to an office every week. With anecdotes illustrating principles in action (in relatable and sometimes irreverent fashion) and stand-alone practices and exercises, Kim gives readers the tools and directions to focus on what's right with them instead of what's wrong. When John Kim was going through the end of a relationship, he began blogging as The Angry Therapist, documenting his personal journey post-divorce. Traditional therapists avoid transparency, but Kim preferred the language of "me too" as opposed to "you should." He blogged about his own shortcomings, revelations, views on relationships, and the world. He spoke a different therapeutic language —open, raw, and at times subversive — and people responded. The Angry Therapist blog, that inspired this book, has been featured in The Atlantic Monthly and on NPR.

An Invitation From Gay HendricksI am thrilled and delighted to offer to you the new edition of Learning To Love Yourself. Revisiting and rewriting the book has been a pleasure from beginning to end. With its new elements, the book comes alive in a whole new way.Looking back over more than three decades to the moment of its conception, I can now see how writing this book changed my life in every way.I first wrote it as an act of love, to share an experience that feels as if it's still transforming me in my very cells. It was my hope that telling about the experience could inspire the same profound life-changes in others. The many thousands of letters, emails and spoken appreciations I've received since then let me know that my hope came true.The experience described in the book revealed the living mystery of love to me, allowing me to feel its sweet power for the first time. Because I suddenly knew what real love felt like, I was able to break free of my pattern of painful relationships with women. Ultimately it helped me find my way to Kathlyn, the love of my life and my wife for the past quarter-century.The new edition is ideal for giving to loved ones (including yourself!) who are on the journey to forgiving, accepting and loving themselves. It tells you how I came to an acceptance and unconditional love of even the most difficult-to-love parts of myself.My fondest wish is that you use it for exactly the same purpose, with exactly the same result.

Transformational leader and author Marci Shimoff outlines seven steps aimed at helping readers develop and maintain unconditional love which she believes will allow them to have lasting joy and fulfillment in life.

Self-love isn't talked about very much, but this book seeks to open up a conversation about how important it is to love yourself. What do you see when you look in the mirror? Often we notice the things that make us feel different or we don't like. But self-love can help us see what makes us uniquely awesome! This book teaches kids how to choose their thoughts, manage their perspectives, and feel comfortable and happy with themselves, even when hard things happen.

Jill Sherer Murray lived in a dead-end relationship into her forties before she finally let it go. She was like millions of women who struggle with whether to stay in a loveless marriage, a bad relationship, or give up on dating altogether, believing love isn’t in the cards. You may be struggling with a similar decision yourself. Perhaps you’re terrified of being single, and yet you don’t truly feel you’re living the life you want. With warmth and honesty, Murray shows you how letting go—of feeling stuck, afraid, and alone, and of believing what you’ve got is all you deserve—can free you from a life that isn’t serving you. She knows this is true, because she did it herself—and ultimately attracted the love and life she wanted. Through her story, other women’s stories, surprising facts and statistics, and helpful exercises, Big Wild Love will show you the way back to the self you’ve lost. It will put you on the path to change and teach you that, wherever you are, it’s never too late to start anew and find the Big Wild Love you deserve.

Do the same problems keep cropping up in your life? Have you tried to make changes but then slipped back into old ways of being that keep you stuck and unhappy? What if you were able to break free from the subconscious patterns that keep sabotaging your happiness, your relationships and success? Patterns such as needing to "please others," or needing to "prove our worth" ultimately take away happiness; they keep us stuck in a state of fear and worry about never being good enough. When we let that go and learn to love ourselves we can make ourselves strong, and confident, and capable of achieving our dreams. Yet sometimes loving ourselves is so much easier said, than done In Out Of Fear Into Love, therapist Marlene Rose Shaw shares the process she has developed from helping thousands of people let go of fear and achieve happier relationships and more confidence. She explains how and why limiting beliefs, based in fear, take such a firm grip on our lives. She teaches how to utilise proven psychological methods to clear them and how to practice self-love instead. In this book you will learn: To identify the FOUR most common limiting beliefs and how they may be impacting on your life To use the incredibly powerful Emotional Freedom Techniques to help you let go of those limiting beliefs - permanently To restore the FOUR types of self-love that those beliefs block To work with an important step often overlooked in self-empowerment work-a step which will significantly help you to make the changes you want to achive in your life Out Of Fear Into Love includes easy to read cases studies to help you identify with everyday struggles. It also has links to self-help resources including: worksheets, quizzes, audios and videos. "

From the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller On Bullshit, a profound meditation on how and why we love In The Reasons of Love, leading moral philosopher and bestselling author Harry Frankfurt argues that the key to a fulfilled life is to pursue wholeheartedly what one cares about, that love is the most authoritative form of caring, and that the purest form of love is, in a complicated way, self-love. Through caring, we infuse the world with meaning. Caring provides us with stable ambitions and concerns, and it shapes the framework of aims and interests within which we lead our lives. Love is a nonvoluntary, disinterested concern for the flourishing of what we love—and self-love, as distinct from self-indulgence, is at heart of this concern. The most elementary form of self-love is no more than the desire to love, and self-love is simply a commitment to finding meaning in our lives.

A compassionate, shame-free guide for your darkest days “A one-of-a-kind book . . . to read for yourself or give to a struggling friend or loved one without the fear that depression and suicidal thoughts will be minimized, medicalized or over-spiritualized.”—Kay Warren, cofounder of Saddleback Church What happens when loving Jesus doesn’t cure you of depression, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts? You might be crushed by shame over your mental illness, only to be told by well-meaning Christians to “choose joy” and “pray more.” So you beg God to take away the pain, but nothing eases the ache inside. As darkness lingers and color drains from your world, you’re left wondering if God has abandoned you. You just want a way out. But there’s hope. In I Love Jesus, But I Want to Die, Sarah J. Robinson offers a healthy, practical, and shame-free guide for Christians struggling with mental illness. With unflinching honesty, Sarah shares her story of battling depression and fighting to stay alive despite toxic theology that made her afraid to seek help outside the church. Pairing her own story with scriptural insights, mental health research, and simple practices, Sarah helps you reconnect with the God who is present in our deepest anguish and discover that you are worth everything it takes to get better. Beautifully written and full of hard-won wisdom, I Love Jesus, But I Want to Die offers a path toward a rich, hope-filled life in Christ, even when healing doesn’t look like what you expect.

This book is for women who criticize themselves and are often unhappy with themselves. It is a collection of valuable practical pieces of advice. Use the "magical recipes" that have already helped dozens of women to start loving themselves. If you don't love yourself, you're not satisfied with yourself and the results of your life up to that point. When you compare yourself with someone else over and over, you feel disappointed. When you criticize your every action, you're always unhappy. Your reflection in the mirror doesn't create positive feelings, but rather becomes another source of negativity. Sometimes you may truly believe that you are the biggest loser ever. You often ignore your own needs and desires. You lack love. If you're single, you strive to attract your soul mate and hope that with his coming you will feel loved. At the same time, you think that there may be no one who could love you. If you have a partner, his love is not enough. You live with a feeling of not being loved, appreciated, or respected enough. You blame yourself constantly for any mistakes that have happened in your past. "How could I have screwed things up so much?!" - you angrily think. Not loving yourself is not only an internal and invisible process, but it affects your life, too. How does low self-esteem affect your relationships? Well, your partner behaves in such a way that he is not afraid of losing you. He may promise (and quickly forget), he may insult you, cheat on you, and still pretend that all is fine. He may even hit you. This behavior doesn't cause any active resistance from your side though. Of course, you may complain about him but most likely, you tend to tolerate the behavior. Your self-esteem is too low and his dignity is too high. In this case you're afraid to lose "your tormentor" and you live with the dead-end belief that you will meet no one better. People with low self-esteem are prone to explicit and implicit jealousy attacks. With a certain periodicity you'll be jealous of your partner's past relationships, casual small talks, and his colleagues. Coming up with a reason for suspicion is not a big deal for you, you're good at this. Stupid jealousy is what hinders the healthy relationships. As for the girls who are not in relationships, the low self-esteem is not less destructive. It may be hard to believe that there will be a man who can fall in love with you with all his heart! Sometimes a girl doesn't allow relationships with a man to develop, believing that he is too good for her. With similar actions (or inactions) you simply push a new boyfriend away "give" him a more worthy, in your opinion, woman. Lack of self-love pushes you to conquer the men. You don't believe that the members of the opposite sex may be interested in you. Therefore, as soon as you meet an attractive man, you start to run after him and show an excessive interest. This most likely will lead to nothing and may scare this man. Your low self-esteem may also affect your career success. Sometimes, you may be afraid of sharing your own opinion and thus block any opportunities. You seem to be no one special, and therefore, your results have little or no value. This is why you choose to sit quietly and not stick out! If you created something, you would definitely be showered with a wave of criticism! Lack of self-love makes you less demanding in regards to income as well. This is why you may work in a low paying job and earn less than you serve. Your life strategy is to tolerate poor working conditions and a bad attitude of your manager. Your self-esteem cannot but affect your quality of life. It's enough to look around and note the conditions in which you live. You may put an equals sign between self-love and everything that surrounds you. After all, your surroundings are just a reflection of your inner self-attitude. Increase your self-esteem and your life will improve.