My Detachment is a war story like none you have ever read before, an unromanticized portrait of a young man coming of age in the controversial war that defined a generation. In an astonishingly honest, comic, and moving account of his tour of duty in Vietnam, master storyteller Tracy Kidder writes for the first time about himself. This extraordinary memoir is destined to become a classic. Kidder was an ROTC intelligence officer, just months out of college and expecting a stateside assignment, when his orders arrived for Vietnam. There, lovesick, anxious, and melancholic, he tried to assume command of his detachment, a ragtag band of eight more-or-less ungovernable men charged with reporting on enemy radio locations. He eventually learned not only to lead them but to laugh and drink with them as they shared the boredom, pointlessness, and fear of war. Together, they sought a ghostly enemy, homing in on radio transmissions and funneling intelligence gathered by others. Kidder realized that he would spend his time in Vietnam listening in on battle but never actually experiencing it. With remarkable clarity and with great detachment, Kidder looks back at himself from across three and a half decades, confessing how, as a young lieutenant, he sought to borrow from the tragedy around him and to imagine himself a romantic hero. Unrelentingly honest, rueful, and revealing, My Detachment gives us war without heroism, while preserving those rare moments of redeeming grace in the midst of lunacy and danger. The officers and men of My Detachment are not the sort of people who appear in war movies–they are the ones who appear only in war, and they are unforgettable.

Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., Counselor and Certified Professional Coach, has over 25 years experience as a licensed therapist and relationship coach. She struggled with the concept of detachment and "letting go" her entire life, and she finally got fed up with OPP's (other people's problems)! She shares with you exactly how to detach with compassion, what to say to yourself, what to say aloud, and how to pull out of the situation while avoiding conflict and the emotional rollercoaster. You'll learn how to protect yourself with spiritual empowerment, how to show genuine love and concern, while detaching from your emotions. This book is a must-read for anyone who is struggling with OPP's. Here's what you'll get: How I Stopped Being a Whipping Post Recovering People-Pleasers I Just Want to Feel Good What Is Detachment and How Do You Do It? Highly Sensitive People Detached Concern How to Protect Yourself from People Who Hurt You What's Really Wiping out All Your Energy If One More Person Tells Me They Need Me I Will Scream! The Six Toxic People in Your Life and How to Handle Them Emotional Vampires Controllers Manipulators Moochers Drama Addicts The 11 Best Ways to Manage Toxic People Are You Putting Yourself Last? Validators vs. Invalidators Why Others Sabotage Us and How to Handle Them How to Handle Criticism without Anguish Choose Your People Well Your 4 Guiding Forces and How to Use Them Why You Worry and How to Stop It 10 Tips for Handling Anxiety Navy Seals Stress Relief Tactics Fix the Broken Windows and Clean up Your Life Create a Strategy Choose Every Battle Have High Standards Why Detach? The 3 Main Obstacles to Detachment and How to Overcome Them Letting Go of People from our Past How to Confront Your Tightest Bonds Co-Dependent Meets Narcissist - The Bad Match Co-Dependency vs. Empathy The Cure: Respect, Reality and Reciprocity Enabling Actual Helping Behaviors Boundaries That Promote Intimacy Stop the Insanity! Get Fed Up! What to Do When You've Reached Your Breaking Point How to Not Crack Under Stress Tough Love When to Amputate Normal Stages of Grieving 8 Tips for Dealing with Other People's Problems The Four Magical Words to Deal with Resistance Creating Authentic Power Turn "Learned Helplessness" into "Learned Empowerment" Your 10 Signature Strengths How to Be Compassionate Yet Detached Spiritual Empowerment Peace of Mind and Stillness of Heart Lessons from a Butterfly Forgiveness How to "Let Go and Let God" We Are All One Yet Separate Create Space for Your Own Best Life Self-Focus What Oprah Knows for Sure Finding Your Purpose Hope Is a Thing With Feathers Be Filled Up With Yourself Positive Affirmations are Your Magic Words Spiritual Practice Let It Go Comes the Dawn Roar!

Meditations and Reflections to Help End Codependence “In 200 short, straightforward daily lessons illustrating the many forms that detachment can take in one’s life. Casey’s latest is an easy reference guide for those seeking recovery or peace.” —Publishers Weekly #1 New Release in Personality Disorders and Twelve-Step Programs Do you ever feel like you might be giving other people too much power over your mood? Do you find yourself feeling immobilized by expectations and demands? The cure for facing codependence, says Karen Casey, is detachment. Control your life by letting go. When we remove codependent behavior from our lives, we discover a life of balance and freedom. Whether you find yourself tempted to become enmeshed in other people’s problems or rushing to their rescue, Casey reminds us to stop controlling behavior —that we cannot control anyone or anything beyond ourselves. What is codependency and detachment? Inside, you’ll find gems of insight for every stage of your codependence recovery journey. Through 200 recovery meditations and reflections, Casey explores how to set boundaries, control emotions, face attachment issues in adults, and more. Inspirational and easy to read, Let Go Now guides us away from taking care of others, and toward taking care of ourselves. If you’re looking for a codependent book or an attachment book —like Melody Beattie books,The Power of Letting Go Codependent No More, or TheLanguage of Letting Go book —you’ll love Let Go Now.

Find your way through the mess to embrace the fulfilling life you've always dreamed of. Join New York Times bestselling author John Eldredge as he shares practical, simple, and refreshing tips with you for living fully. How would you say you are doing these days? Are you happy most of the time? Do you feel deeply loved? Are you excited about your future? How often do you feel lighthearted? These questions almost seem unfair. Life is so hard on all of us, rough on our humanity. We live in soul-scorching times. The mad pace of it all, the number of demands on our time and energy, and the overwhelming torrent of information coming at us 24-7 have left us all ragged, wrung-out, and emptied. This isn't the life we want, but how do we get off the roller coaster? In Get Your Life Back, John Eldredge shows you how to move forward into the life you so desperately need. By incorporating a few simple practices—what John calls "graces"—you can begin to recover your soul, disentangle from the tragedies of this broken world, and discover the restorative power of beauty. These simple practices are yours for the taking. You don't need to abandon your life to get it back--in fact, John shares that you can start restoring your life here and now. Get Your Life Back will give you the tools you need to: Learn how to insert the One Minute Pause into your day Begin practicing "benevolent detachment" and truly let it all go Offer kindness toward yourself in the choices you make Drink in the simple beauty available to you every day Take realistic steps to unplug from technology overload God wants to strengthen and renew your soul, and Jesus longs to give you more of himself. The world may be harsh, but God is gentle; he knows what your daily life is like. All we need to do is put ourselves in places that allow us to receive his help. You can live freely and lightly. Let Get Your Life Back show you how. Your soul will thank you for it.

Arthur Johnston's 'Narrative of the Operations of a Detachment in an Expedition to Candy, in the Island of Ceylon' is a gripping firsthand account of a military expedition set in the lush landscapes of Ceylon. Johnston's literary style is characterized by a detailed and immersive narration of the events, giving readers a vivid picture of the challenges and triumphs faced by the detachment. The book provides a valuable insight into the historical context of colonial warfare in Ceylon, shedding light on the strategies and tactics employed by the military forces. Johnston's meticulous attention to detail and his ability to capture the essence of the expedition make this book a compelling read for history buffs and military enthusiasts alike. Arthur Johnston, a seasoned military officer, drew upon his personal experiences in Ceylon to write this narrative. His firsthand knowledge of the expedition adds credibility to the account, providing readers with a unique perspective on the events that unfolded. Johnston's expertise in military tactics and his passion for storytelling converge in this captivating book, offering readers a glimpse into a lesser-known chapter of colonial history. I highly recommend 'Narrative of the Operations of a Detachment in an Expedition to Candy, in the Island of Ceylon' to anyone interested in military history, colonial warfare, or historical narratives. Johnston's meticulous research and immersive storytelling make this book a valuable addition to any collection of historical literature.

Embrace the Unique Way God Designed You Perhaps you’re bothered by bright lights or you struggle to tune out background noise. Maybe you’re quick to notice the details others miss or you need more time to process events. You may feel emotions deeply and hear, “You’re just too sensitive.” But what if you learned you’re not “too sensitive”? What if your sensitivity is part of your design and comes with corresponding strengths? One in five people are HSPs—Highly Sensitive Persons—with the genetic trait of sensory sensitivity. As an HSP, you are not fragile or frail. You can be a strong friend in relationships, strong partner in business, and strong member of your community. Sensitive and Strong is your guide to navigating the HSP journey of exploration and growth. It will help you… discover you’re different, not defective understand your genetic disposition to an over-abundance of stimuli see how your sensitivities correlate to key strengths respond to stressful situations with confidence and calm harness your strengths to serve others Release the worry that you’re “too high maintenance” or just plain “too much” and embrace the many ways you can be both sensitive and strong.

ONE OF TIME'S 10 BEST FICTION BOOKS OF 2020. Longlisted for the Joyce Carol Oates Prize. Named a Best Book of 2020 by NPR, Bustle, Good Housekeeping, the New York Public Library, Library Journal, Lit Hub, Electric Literature, and Tor.com "As enchanting as fairy tales, as mysterious as dreams, these exquisitely composed fictions are as urgent and original as any being written today.” —Sigrid Nunez, author of The Friend, winner of the 2018 National Book Award for Fiction An urgent and unsettling collection of women on the verge from Laura van den Berg, author of The Third Hotel I Hold a Wolf by the Ears, Laura van den Berg’s first story collection since her prizewinning book The Isle of Youth, draws readers into a world of wholly original, sideways ghost stories that linger in the mouth and the mind. Both timeless and urgent, these eleven stories confront misogyny, violence, and the impossible economics of America with van den Berg’s trademark spiky humor and surreal eye. Moving from the peculiarities of Florida to liminal spaces of travel in Mexico City, Sicily, and Iceland, I Hold a Wolf by the Ears is uncannily attuned to our current moment, and to the fears we reveal to no one but ourselves. In “Lizards,” a man mutes his wife’s anxieties by giving her a LaCroix-like seltzer laced with sedatives. In the title story, a woman poses as her more successful sister during a botched Italian holiday, a choice that brings about strange and destructive consequences, while in “Karolina,” a woman discovers her prickly ex-sister-in-law in the aftermath of an earthquake and is forced to face the truth about her violent brother. I Hold a Wolf by the Ears presents a collection of women on the verge, trying to grasp what’s left of life: grieving, divorced, and hyperaware, searching, vulnerable, and unhinged, they exist in a world that deviates from our own only when you look too closely. With remarkable control and transcendent talent, van den Berg dissolves, in the words of the narrator of “Slumberland,” “that border between magic and annihilation,” and further establishes herself as a defining fiction writer of our time.

Detachment and Enabling combines two classic, user-friendly texts designed for loved ones of addicts and alcoholics. After you have done all you can to help a chemically dependent person and he or she continues to drink or use, it's time to detach. Detachment tells us how we can continue to love someone who is chemically dependent and, at the same time, no longer focus on that person's behavior. It is about taking back our lives.Enabling describes the problems we can encounter when we focus on the alcoholic or addict in order to keep peace at any price. The authors encourage us to consider if we are really helping the alcoholic or ourselves when we prevent the alcoholic from feeling the true consequences of his or her actions.About the authors: Judith M. Knowlton has a degree in psychology from Oberlin College and her master's in Group Process from Seton Hall University. A recovering alcoholic, she is a Certified Alcoholism Counselor with then years/' experience. Judy has been instrumental in starting several alcoholism programs in northern New Jersey. She is the founder of Action for Sobriety Groups, president of Quotidian, and the mother of three adult children.Rebecca D. Chaitin is a writer and editor, part-time alcoholism counselor, and recovering alcoholic. Born in Virginia, she is graduate of Hollins College and worked for various New York publishers, including Time-Life Books, before she began freelancing in the early 1970s. She now lives in Montclair, New Jersey, with her three teenagers.

Exploring the religious category of dying to self, this book aims to resolve contemporary issues that relate to detachment. Beginning with an examination of humility in its general notion and as a religious virtue that detachment presupposes, Kellenberger draws on a range of ancient, medieval, modern, and contemporary sources that address the main characteristics of detachment, including the work of Meister Eckhart, St. Teresa, and Simone Weil, as well as writers as varied as Gregory of Nyssa, Rabi'a al-Adawiyya, Søren Kierkegaard, Andrew Newberg, John Hick and Keiji Nishitani. Kellenberger explores the key issues that arise for detachment, including the place of the individual's will in detachment, the relationship of detachment to desire, to attachment to persons, and to self-love and self-respect, and issues of contemporary secular detachment such as inducement via chemicals. This book heeds the relevance of the religious virtue of detachment for those living in the twenty-first century.