In preparing a book of etiquette for ladies, I would lay down as the first rule, "Do unto others as you would others should do to you." You can never be rude if you bear the rule always in mind, for what lady likes to be treated rudely? True Christian politeness will always be the result of an unselfish regard for the feelings of others, and though you may err in the ceremonious points of etiquette, you will never be impolite. Politeness, founded upon such a rule, becomes the expression, in graceful manner, of social virtues. The spirit of politeness consists in a certain attention to forms and ceremonies, which are meant both to please others and ourselves, and to make others pleased with us; a still clearer definition may be given by saying that politeness is goodness of heart put into daily practice; there can be no _true_ politeness without kindness, purity, singleness of heart, and sensibility.

The Ladies' Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness. A complete hand book for the use of the lady in polite society. Containing full directions for correct manners, dress, deportment, and conversation; rules for the duties od both hostess and guest in mornin receptions, dinner companies, visiting, evening parties and balls; A complete guide for letter writing and cards of compliments; hints of managing servants, on the preservation of health, and on accomplishments. And Also useful receipts for the complexion, hair and with hints and directions for the care of the wardrobe.

A guide to etiquette that was used right after the Civil War. Recommended by the Confederate Yankee.

“A scholarly guide to etiquette as entertaining and amusing as a work of fiction” (Jane Austen’s Regency World Magazine). Have you ever wondered what it would have been like to live in the nineteenth century? How would you have gotten a partner in a ballroom? What would you have done with a letter of introduction? And where would you have sat in a carriage? Covering all these nineteenth-century dilemmas and more, this book is your must-have guide to the etiquette of our well-heeled forebears. As it takes you through the intricacies of rank, the niceties of the street, the good conduct that was desired in the ballroom, and the awkward blunders that a lady or gentleman would have wanted to avoid, you will discover an abundance of etiquette advice from across the century, and a lively, occasionally tongue-in-cheek, and thoroughly detailed history of nineteenth-century manners and conduct. This well-researched book is enjoyable, compelling reading for anyone with an interest in this period. In exploring the expectations of behavior and etiquette, it brings the world of the nineteenth century to life.

"There is no branch of education called so universally into requisition as the art of letter writing; no station, high or low, where the necessity for correspondence is not felt; no person, young or old, who does not, at some time, write, cause to be written, and receive letters. From the President in his official capacity, with the busy pens of secretaries constantly employed in this branch of service, to the Irish laborer who, unable to guide a pen, writes, also by proxy, to his kinsfolks across the wide ocean; all, at some time, feel the desire to transmit some message, word of love, business, or sometimes enmity, by letter." Many believe that politeness is but a mask worn in the world to conceal bad passions and impulses, and to make a show of possessing virtues not really existing in the heart; thus, that politeness is merely hypocrisy and dissimulation. Do not believe this; be certain that those who profess such a doctrine are practising themselves the deceit they condemn so much. Such people scout politeness, because, to be truly a lady, one must carry the principles into every circumstance of life, into the family circle, the most intimate friendship, and never forget to extend the gentle courtesies of life to every one. This they find too much trouble, and so deride the idea of being polite and call it deceitfulness. True politeness is the language of a good heart, and those possessing that heart will never, under any circumstances, be rude. They may not enter a crowded saloon gracefully; they may be entirely ignorant of the forms of good society; they may be awkward at table, ungrammatical in speech; but they will never be heard speaking so as to wound the feelings of another; they will never be seen making others uncomfortable by seeking solely for their own personal convenience; they will always endeavor to set every one around them at ease; they will be self-sacrificing, friendly, unselfish; truly in word and deed, polite. Give to such a woman the knowledge of the forms and customs of society, teach her how best to show the gentle courtesies of life, and you have a lady, created by God, only indebted for the outward polish to the world. CONTENTS. CHAPTER I. Conversation CHAPTER II. Dress CHAPTER III. Traveling CHAPTER IV. How to behave at a Hotel CHAPTER V. Evening Parties--Etiquette for the Hostess CHAPTER VI. Evening Parties--Etiquette for the Guest CHAPTER VII. Visiting--Etiquette for the Hostess CHAPTER VIII. Visiting--Etiquette for the Guest CHAPTER IX. Morning Receptions or Calls--Etiquette for the Hostess CHAPTER X. Morning Receptions or Calls--Etiquette for the Caller CHAPTER XI. Dinner Company--Etiquette for the Hostess CHAPTER XII. Dinner Company--Etiquette for the Guest CHAPTER XIII. Table Etiquette CHAPTER XIV. Conduct in the Street CHAPTER XV. Letter Writing CHAPTER XVI. Polite Deportment and good Habits CHAPTER XVII. Conduct in Church CHAPTER XVIII. Ball room Etiquette--For the Hostess CHAPTER XIX. Ball room Etiquette--For the Guest CHAPTER XX. Places of Amusement CHAPTER XXI. Accomplishments CHAPTER XXII. Servants CHAPTER XXIII. On a Young Lady's Conduct when contemplating Marriage CHAPTER XXIV. Bridal Etiquette CHAPTER XXV. Hints on Health CHAPTER XXVI. Miscellaneous RECEIPTS. For the Complexion, &c.

The founder of The Plaza Hotel's Finishing Program spills her insider knowledge to help you become instantly more polished. In her debut book, Modern Etiquette Made Easy, the Queen of Good Manners Myka Meier takes formal etiquette that she learned while training under a former member of the Queen of England’s household and breaks it down into five easy steps to help you feel 100 percent confident in the areas of social, dining, business, and networking etiquette. In this refreshingly entertaining etiquette guide, Myka combines her passion for etiquette and love of humor to share tips that are sure to give you a competitive edge in both your social and professional life. Through easy-to-follow chapters and relatable lessons, you’ll learn how to: Create the best first impression Become the most coveted party guest Network like a pro Practice good table manners And much, much more! Perfect for everyone who’s ever gone for the cheek kiss as the new acquaintance offered a handshake, or hobbled home from a networking event in stilettos. Fitting for messy-bun millennials who find themselves suddenly adulting without a clue, or mid-career professionals hoping to revamp their image. Or really, for anyone at all—at the end of the day, we could all use some more respect and kindness, and Modern Etiquette Made Easy offers advice and insight like a friend. Pinkies down!

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